Black and white women dating
I never understood why it makes a certain type of black man feel good to have a white woman on his arm. Vanessa Williams (who, by the way, is fully black; people get off on thinking very attractive black women are mixed). It would be one thing if it were true love, but some are just doing it because they see it as a prize. Even on social media, my heart will sink as I see black women I've known from high school or elementary school now say they're "black and Filipino," "black and Puerto Rican," "black and [whatever race]" -- just don't say you're fully black! It seems these women have been conditioned to think they're not worthy if they're "just black."Before I met my boyfriend's mother in person, she thought I was white. From the way I spoke on the phone to the way I "act," I have been dubbed the "whitest black girl" everywhere from my hometown to a city close to the Canadian border (Syracuse, I'm going to leave out Beyoncé and Rihanna, because duh. I’ve been writing (mostly mediocre) articles on these here Internets pretty much every day for the past six years.
Other races are always seen as a trophy on the arm of a black man."This all started because I was referencing a conversation we'd had when I was pregnant with our son.My boyfriend had said lightheartedly, "I hope our son has my hair." My boyfriend has beautiful, soft curls, a genetic gift from both his races.He said, "Courtney, I see you struggle with your hair, and I think it would be nice if he had my curly hair.You wouldn't want him to have coarse hair if you could help it. I know I'm an attractive female with a lot to offer.It would be easier to manage if his hair was curly was all I'm saying."Everywhere from pop culture to the hood, men are either consciously or subconsciously telling black women they aren't "wanted." I have seen black man not even look twice at black women whom I see as beautiful, yet I've seen them break their necks for decent-looking -- dare I say unattractive -- women of other races. Granted, I think everyone is entitled to a personal preference regarding whom they like. I have a degree -- two, actually, including a master's.
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But when, as a black man, you start saying things such as, "I don't date black women; I don't find them attractive," I think we have an issue. I am intelligent, can hold a conversation and come from a background more like The Cosby Show than the PJs. I digress.) I know how to cook, and I am known for being "everyone's cheerleader" (that is, supportive).