Top ten rules for dating my daughter
When Sally, a Brit, arrived in Madrid five years ago she had the rather unrealistic expectation that Javier Bardem lookalikes would be queuing up to sweep her off her feet. Now in her early 30s and a seasoned veteran of the dating scene she tells the Local how to avoid the pitfalls of a Spanish mummy´s boy and the perils of communicating through the language barrier.
Here are Sally´s top ten tips for navigating the perilous path to true love in Spain.
1 - Breaking the apron strings Photo of a man and his mother: Shutterstock If you believe you can move the relationship along at a snail´s pace and build up to meeting the family at around the six- month mark, then think again.
If he´s into you then you can expect him to ask you to meet his mum, cousins and uncle Jose pretty quickly.
Spanish men typically are still living at home until well into their 30s so his mum is likely to be the queen of his world (who irons his pants and gives him a Tupperware to take to the office).
I avoided this by always trying to choose men whose family lived in another city, or preferably another country. 2 - Take a dictionary Photo of a man with a dictionary: Shutterstock At intercambios (language exchanges) you won´t just be swapping your mother tongues.
Latin American guys are good for this reason (though wrong for so many others). These places are sweaty, sleazy pulling fests where the weak do not survive.
Use the fact that you are an English speaker as your selling point in your profile and there will be a lot more swipes to the right.Plus you can weed out weirdos before you actually meet.Just beware of misleading profiles: guys who cover up their faces with sunglasses or baseball caps to hide how they really look, selfie-mirror dudes and any man with his shirt off (unless you are looking for a one night stand too).4 - Avoid Peter Pan Image of Peter Pan: Shutterstock Deciding to date from the expat pool can be risky indeed.On the one hand you don´t need word reference to send a Whatsapp message to them, on the other hand beware of the immature travelling type who will not only avoid commitment with any woman, but also be incapable of simple tasks like wearing a pair of matching socks or having a bank account.
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5 - Don't expect him to keep up Photo of a man passed out on a bench: Shutterstock As a British woman, I can tell you for sure that I can drink any Spanish guy under the table.